I am coming to this thread a bit late.
Funny, on this list 1 day is 'really really late'.
In other venues there are other timescales.
I find these two posts hold my same sentiments,
and should be studied and understood completely.
From: chris <cb at mythtech.net>
Sent: Saturday, May 14, 2005 8:16 PM
I think the best course of action is to discuss the
matter with someone
OTHER than Winnie, but who is going to be close enough ...
From: Barry Watzman <Watzman at neo.rr.com>
Sent: Sunday, May 15, 2005 2:52 PM
I also think that "deluging her with
requests" is likely to ...
risk creating a situation ...
I really have little to add, just patience, and, try to know all negative
emotions that you may feel and transmit. Internal feelings like "Hate
to lose this" and "The longer this takes, the more time it'll cost me"
are both negatives. The idea is to leave the message "Please
don't lose Don's collection" and trust her with that message.
You might find some way to communicate with her that is totally devoid
of any mention of the collection, and then let her mention it in her time.
Failing that, it's on to Chris's idea to go to the family around her.
-- San Diego resident 1985-86
Recipient of Don's graces (some CP/M software) one time.