---snip--- Hi I think part of the problem is that it is hard to explain to another family member what it is that we do. I've tried to explain to my sister inlaw once but soon gave up. It was like trying to explain things in a foriegn language that she didn't know. My guess is that Don may have tried to relate to his wife what it was he was doing but for something like this, there wasn't enough common ground to communicate. Even for a husband and wife, there are things that never get fully communicated. Each eventually learns to just not push the issue if it doesn't need immediate action. The phase " Yes, Dear " comes to mind. Even if he did explain it to her, she may never have understood what it was he was doing and how important it was to him. Without the common ground to discuss such things, it just doesn't work. Putting things in a will is just about the best way to try to deal with such things. Not only that one wishes things properly handled but it is best to find a trusted friend that you can put their name in the will so that the family, through greed or ignorence, can't block your wishes. Dwight

from her. In that context, now that he's gone, it's possible she wants