31 Oct
2012
31 Oct
'12
6:41 p.m.
On 10/31/2012 05:11 PM, Terry Stewart wrote:
I'm happily married for to my (second) spouse now for more than 20
years.
She has her hobbies, I have mine, ad we have some
interests in
common. We respect each other's space and each other.
This works.
I've been married to my (only) wife for 25 years. We've been together
for 34 years.
We have many shared "loves" -- dogs, the outdoors, musclecars, and too
many other things to count.
I have had my calculator collection since the mid-1980's...she always
put up with it, even when machines invaded our first home together, and
other homes until we were able to put up a separate building to house it
all. She doesn't really understand my fascination, but that doesn't
matter -- she knows that my time spent with this stuff is happy time for
me, and she's all about that. She does a lot of competitions with our
dogs...where she travels all around the country competing. I miss her
and the dogs when they are gone, but it's just not my thing to sit
around in a livestock arena and watch dogs run through obstacle courses
for days on end. But -- it makes her happy, so I'm all for it.
She respects that I have my calculators (and some old computers too),
and I respect that she does her dog competition, and it never has caused
any conflict. We do our own things when we can, and we have our
shared things that we do together.
Like Terry wrote -- it just works.
It's all about give and take. Without that ... any relationship is
destined for rough seas.
Kudos to you, Terry! Congratulations on over 20 years of happy
marriage.
Rick Bensene