new ebay feedback

I don't mean to insult anyone here by my views, I'm certain that those of y'all here that have piped up that when you sell on ebay you don't leave feedback until the buyer does do not do it so you can leave retaliatory feedback. unfortunately there are a lot of sellers on ebay that do refuse to leave feedback until the buyer leaves feedback just for the sole purpose of leaving retaliatory feedback or having the threat of that hanging over the buyers head, and Ebay is notorious for doing nothing about retaliatory feedback in the past, even though it is against their rules. I went back and read the note from the seller and i forgot a few words. what the seller said was "as soon as you get the item, leave me positive feedback I'll do the same for you" so the way i read it the seller wants me to leave positive feedback as soon as i have the item in my hot (not so) little hands, no matter if it is as advertised or not. before I leave negative feedback for anyone I -try- to work it out with them via emails or on the phone. I guess what gets to me is the implied threat that even though I paid promptly that if I end up giving neutral of negative feedback that they are going to do the same, just because i gave them neutral or negative feedback. about a year ago there was an entire thread whacked off the ebay messageboards that started when someone complained that they were getting negative feedback very well) and his buyers were giving him neutral or negative feedback for the bad way that the item was packed and he asked how he could stop them. Not one person in the thread told him perhaps he should pack the items he was shipping properly, there were over 300 replies telling him to withhold feedback until the buyer posted and by doing that most buyers are going to give positive feedback for fear that he will besmirch the buyers good feedback scores with negatives.