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Date: Sun, 10 May 2009 12:18:22 -0400
From: Patrick Finnegan <pat at computer-refuge.org>
Subject: Re: Xerox 820 system disks in Teledisk format?
On Sunday 10 May 2009, js at
cimmeri.com wrote:
Likewise, I'm starting to get tired of the sense
of entitlement and
whining behaviors you've had on display lately over when people here
don't provide you with what you need, or fast enough.
I'm not sure how you whine over an email, but I thought that the point
of mailing lists was to talk to other people, and in part to get help
on things that you don't understand or don't know.
If I posted a question here every time I hit the most
minor of snags,
I would EXPECT some people to get annoyed with me.
I'm pretty sure that not eveyone here has the same knowledge or skill
set, so what's minor to you is probably not to other people that have
no knowledge of it.
In any case, I've learned that IT people can't communicate well, and can
be a pain in the ass to deal with because we generally have bad
interpersonal skills. You can do a lot of hard work and try to please
people here, but you still get yelled at for doing a "disservice"
or "not a good enough job". Even if you work out your differences, it
wears down on you over time.
It's dumb arguments like this one that drive people like me away from
this community.
Pat
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************************ Reply:
What dumb argument? Yes, one of the points of a list like this is to ask
for and give help, but even in this day and age concepts like "please" and
"thank you" and showing appreciation instead of complaining and taking
others and their contributions for granted still have some value.
The OP asked for information and help about 22disk and IMD and despite
the denigrating tone of his questions the authors of both of these programs
took the time to answer his questions at length and in detail, enabling him
to resolve his issues, and apparently someone on this list also took the
time to send him the TD disks that he asked for.
What are his final words on the issue? Appreciation for those people and
this list which gave him access to them?
No, now that he got what he needed from the list he tells us, "I'm getting
real, real tired of the tone on this list and will probably take a break from
any posting here. Now I'm beginning to understand why folks like Sellam left."
Not surprising; as I recall some people were also annoyed by Sellam's rude
and insulting attitude and language and not entirely sorry to see *him* leave.
If Chuck and Dave and the person who sent the disks had the same attitude
and had left the list (and, considering the crap that Dave has had to put up
with in the past I wouldn't blame him at all) then OP would still be staring
at his 820 paperweight.
When someone suggests to OP that his negative tone and attitude might
annoy some people who might then be less eager to help him next time,
then that might be seen as an opportunity to improve those "bad interpersonal
skills" that you mention, instead of evoking a defensive response...
m